An important conversation with a hero
Every now and then, we get an opportunity to meet someone that we believe will change the world one day. It’s not that their mission is supreme in some philosophical way, it’s not just their charisma, great ideas, or tone of voice that make you believe more is possible. It is the inner alignment you have with the goals and ambitions of a person that causes you to gravitate toward their words and reciting their phrases to others in a way that inspires them to feel the same way. This phenomenon is called the "Resonance Effect." It goes beyond the surface qualities and taps into a deeper connection that transcends words and actions. It's as if their aspirations resonate with a shared chord within us, creating a harmonious synergy of purpose and belief. The Resonance Effect is a powerful force that not only draws us closer to these remarkable individuals but also compels us to become advocates for their vision.
As we navigate our own paths in life, it's important to recognize and cherish these moments of resonance. They serve as reminders that collective dreams and shared endeavors can propel us toward a future where positive change is not just possible but inevitable. Embracing the Resonance Effect encourages collaboration, fosters unity, and inspires a collective momentum that can indeed change the world. So, let us cherish and amplify these resonant connections, for they hold the potential to spark the transformative energy needed to make a lasting impact on the world we share.
I met one of these people recently. A courageous dm led me here…
Part I: The preparation
Why would this conversation be relevant to the person I was speaking to:
“Half the world is composed of people who have something to say and can't, and the other half who have nothing to say and keep on saying it.”
This conversation allowed me to ask candid questions to someone that is uniquely positioned to help me visualize my end goal and provide insight into whether I may feel satisfied with that version of my life, in a general sense. I admit, I was extremely nervous going into this conversation, but I had questions that I had to get answered.
“Opportunity does not waste time with those who are unprepared.”
Idowu Koyenikan
So, I made sure I was ready.
Three different pages of notes, affirmations on my whiteboard, and a clear calendar and vacation to refresh leading up to the call. I also had multiple conversations with executives and investors from around the country, to ensure my delivery was sharper, my questions were direct, and I had the confidence to speak many levels above my current “title”. This extra time and attention served me well. Not only in this conversation, but in the several conversation that would follow, with people I had wanted to talk to before but couldn’t quite muster the courage.
Practice. Practice. Practice.
Better to practice with real game scenarios.
So, who was I speaking to that could need this much preparation? Well, that is meant to remain anonymous, but know that this this man has your best interest at work at heart. A well-educated and charismatic figure, his smile as unique as his mind, and you won’t be able to help but absolutely love the mission he has dedicated his early life to. I asked him, “when do you feel still in life?” He replied, “when I’m on a plane.” He is constantly talking to his people, understanding what matters in the working woman and man’s lives, trying to figure out how he can get these organizations around the world to care about us, first. This man is a hero for a mission that intersects with my own, I cannot help but love that!
Malik, what is a “Hero” ?
The word "hero" originated from the Greek language, where it originally referred to demigods and figures from mythology who displayed great courage and strength. Over time, the meaning of the word expanded to include individuals who demonstrate exceptional bravery, selflessness, and noble qualities.
Part II: The Lesson
Why is it important to be your own hero?
A hero is a delicate thing. Many people have them and overshoot their expectations of this person to the point of pedestalization. This is dangerous and can lead to disappointment. Instead, look at people like great books, with treasure in the words they speak. Not in who they are or present themselves to be. Especially as black people, it is important we see the value a person has as separate from the person they are. LIfe is short. We all have a chance to be the hero we think others are. Be that hero for someone you know.
What were my questions?
Book recommendation: GRIT (Check back for a review later this year)
Before you sell your company, what is important to consider?
My takeaway: Consider the deal for the buyer. Ask yourself what are they planning to do in 5 years time?
Do you feel c-level executives are most successful when they approach their roles with an entrepreneurial mindset or a corporate role mindset?
My takeaway: Everyone is different, but entrepreneurial people bring their own sets of unique skills and those who fit the system are important for the system.
What is the difference to you as a global leader between these two kinds of people?
My takeaway: Entrepreneurship is not for everyone, but there are people that uniquely drawn to solving problems. Those people should focus on solving those problems, it is their gift to the others.